Secure Love:

How different relationship styles finally stop triggering each other

Relationships are not meant to be this hard.

And it didn't start this way - you two could speak for hours and enjoyed each others company. It's not stubbornness or personality issues - it's usually because of how our worst fears from childhood are playing out subconsciously. It seems a stretch, but it isn't.

With over a decade of working with couples, I have noticed that our first relationships (those with our parents, siblings and even school peers and teachers) profoundly impact our adult relationships. Not only how we express (or avoid expressing) love, but also in how we react to many situations in a relationship.

We often mistake familiarity for safety.

I could not understand why I kept dating such unavailable men, thinking I must try harder or give more, only to realize they weren't as confident as I assumed they were, nor as cold. They were struggling with an early injury that meant they don't trust feelings. And I was dealing with my own injuries. Terry Real says we marry our childhood unfinished business - and I so see how that happens.

This course has not only helped me translate my husband better, but helped us get closer instead of building more distance like it did before we knew of these wounds.

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The What's Your Relationship Personality Quiz

If you haven't done the quiz - feel free to do it now. It's quick and profoundly accurate.

"Tehilla Luttig WOW I took the test and it's spot on. It's like this test understands me, and I've felt misunderstood for a very long time." Brenda

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This free quiz has given hundreds of people profound insights, because what I saw wasn't your personality - but your programming! And programming can be rewired.

This course takes those results deeper, and can change your life - today still.

I am soo happy that you are here! Understanding ourselves and our partners is a step closer to that loving relationship we crave, and perhaps once had. You deserve to be happy in love, and it's not reserved for the lucky few or fairytales.

That’s where Unstuck: Break Free From Relationship Patterns Holding You Back comes in.

This course isn’t just about recognizing the patterns; it’s about learning how to break free from them.

Whether you’ve realized you’re on the over-giving end, with little in return; or the type that pulls away from emotions (to protect yourself); or feeling emotionally stuck in a tug of war, this course will show you how to stop repeating the same painful cycles and start building the deep, meaningful connections you’ve always wanted.

You, and probably your partner too, are not broken—just stuck in a relationship pattern you never signed up for. The good news? You don’t need to stay there! Change is just a click away..

I'm in!

Finally understand why relationships can feel so dang hard!

You’re not alone. We’ve all had moments where we wonder why we end up in the same frustrating patterns—over and over. It’s like a never-ending emotional merry-go-round, except no one’s having fun. (I get it—been there!)

But here’s the thing: You’re not broken, and neither is your relationship. You’re just operating from old patterns and wounds you didn’t even know were there. That’s where this quiz course, Unstuck, comes in.

And the best news is - it doesn’t have to stay this way. Things can start changing TODAY already!!

You no longer need to...

Cross your fingers and hope for better luck, or your partner to FINALLY wake up and know how to just do better..

Or feel defeated, and give up on love and decide you're just better off living life on your own..

Introducing Secure Love

Your personalized guide to understanding why you relate the way you do, and how to stop repeating the patterns that are holding you back.

This course will help you understand the roots of your relationship challenges, whether you're always giving too much, pulling away, or feeling stuck in emotional chaos. With this deeper understanding, you’ll get tools to start creating real, lasting change in your relationships.

Raise your hand if you…

Feel like you're always doing the most in your relationships - always giving, always fixing - and yet, it never feels like enough? You want to feel safe and connected, but it feels like you're the only one holding everything together.

Or maybe, You find yourself pulling away when things get emotionally intense? It doesn't make sense why your partner needs to get so emotional! It's easy - you take a moment, you reflect on it, you process it, and then you move on. Why can't it be easier like it was when you first dated?!

Or perhaps, You are the personality type that feels caught in a cycle of wanting closeness but also being afraid of it? Sometimes you push people away, sometimes you pull them closer, but it always feels like you're trapped in emotional chaos. You might even feel scared that something in you is 'too broken' to ever really feel safe or loved. But you do know you're really tired.

What you’re experiencing isn’t your fault.

The real issue is how past relationships have shaped the way you respond in relationships.

For The Anxious Attached, it’s the fear that if you’re not doing, you’ll lose the love you need.

For The Avoidant Attached, it’s the fear of losing yourself.

For The Disorganized Attached, it’s the deep pain of feeling unsafe in both closeness and given space.

But the truth is, it doesn’t have to be this way. It isn't "just who you are" unless you want it to be! Change is a click away.

Imagine if…

You could confidently ask for what you need without holding back because of the fear of rejection or it (you) being too much.

You could enjoy closeness without feeling suffocated by emotions, or needing to pull away.

You could feel calm and secure in your relationships, knowing you're worthy of love, without fearing the chaos of emotions.

Say goodbye to the constant anxiety, the need to always give or pull away, the chaos of never feeling truly secure—and say hello to a new way of relating where you can feel calm, connected, and confident in your relationships.

Here’s what people are saying about the Relationship Personality Quiz:

"Wow! I took the test and it's spot on. It's like this test understands me, and I've felt misunderstood for a very long time." - Brenda

"Mine was spot on! The tip that came up is something I am working on, so it was great confirmation for me!" - Lindsay

"That is breathtakingly accurate! It gave me such great insight!" - Emma

The quiz has been around for some time, but the course is the newest addition, built with YOU in mind. It might not be your fault, and as a kid its what was, but as the adult you get to choose how you are in love. This course is your guide to finding yourself again, and loving from there not fear and the prison of our past.

Start transforming your relationship right now! Opening Special of $37.

I'm ready!

Inside the Relationship Personality Quiz Course, you will find:

A deeper understanding of who you are bringing to the relationship.

So you can stop wondering, "Why do I keep ending up in the same painful situations?" and start seeing with crystal clarity why you react the way you do in relationships. This isn’t about blaming yourself - it’s about understanding how your mind and heart have been wired from past experiences, so you can stop being triggered by the same old patterns and finally feel like you’re in control of your emotional world.

Step-by-step insights into the strengths and challenges of your (and your partners') personality.

So you can recognize and embrace your deepest relationship strengths, while gently healing the wounds that keep sabotaging your connections. Imagine no longer feeling trapped in a cycle of over-giving, shutting down, or constantly second-guessing yourself. This module gives you the insight and tools to not only understand your challenges but to face them with confidence, knowing you have the power to create change.

Practical tools & actions to start implementing today already!

So you can finally breathe again! Skills to move from knowing what’s wrong to taking real steps to change it. You’ll be equipped with practical, bite-sized actions you can apply immediately to start building healthier, more fulfilling relationships. No more feeling stuck in endless self-help loops, these are the exact steps you need to feel calmer, more confident, and truly connected to yourself and your loved ones.

Self-regulation techniques and practices for those heated, anxiety-giving moments.

So you can stop feeling like your emotions are running the show. Whether you’re the one who’s always in overdrive trying to fix everything, or you find yourself shutting down when things get too intense, these simple yet powerful practices will help you calm your nervous system, manage overwhelming emotions, and finally feel grounded and safe -even in the moments that used to trigger you the most.

Bonuses:

When you join Secure Love, you’ll also receive:

Transformational Workbook

This is not about passive learning, but embodying what you learn and having practical exercises to use the insights in real life situations so that you can see the results in your marriage, today already!

Validation Cheat Sheet

Perfect for knowing how to communicate in a way that helps you feel heard and understood.

Defensiveness Checklist

To help you navigate tricky conversations with ease.

Journal Prompts for Healing

To guide your journey of self-discovery and emotional healing.

Resentment Buster

A guided visualization to help put down the resentment and see what you need to be focused on.

Reparenting scripts

scripts to help you reconnect with parts of you from childhood that are stuck there, trying to protect you.

Now, you might be thinking “How is this course different?”

This course doesn’t just offer surface-level advice. It goes deep into your attachment wounds, your nervous system responses, and the root causes of your relationship challenges. It’s designed to not only give you clarity but also the tools to heal and transform.

So, are you ready to finally break free from unhealthy relationship patterns? It’s time to understand your relationship personality and start building the connections you’ve always longed for.

Start transforming your relationship right now, for only $37.

I'm Ready!

Hi, I’m Tehilla, a relationship and identity coach who has helped women all over the world transform their relationships by healing their attachment wounds and reprogramming their nervous systems. After years of research and personal experience, I created the Relationship Personality Quiz Course to give women like you the tools they need to feel confident, calm, and empowered in all their relationships.

With over 10 years in private practice as a licensed counselor, and a thriving fully booked practice, I needed to get what I know out there - for you and your children.

Happily ever after does not only belong to fairytales or the lucky few.

This course is for you if:

You feel like you’re always giving too much and still not getting what you need.

You feel overwhelmed when people want to get emotionally close to you.

You feel stuck in a push-pull cycle of wanting closeness but fearing it at the same time.

By the end of this program, you will:

Have a deep understanding of your relationship personality and why you relate the way you do.

Learn how to manage your emotions and stop feeling overwhelmed by them.

Gain confidence in communicating your needs and setting boundaries without fear of rejection or losing yourself.

Develop the ability to create secure, loving connections without losing your sense of self.

Let’s be honest—those frustrating relationship patterns aren't going anywhere unless you take the first step. The question is, how long do you want to wait to finally feel that peace and connection you deserve?

Start transforming your relationship right now!

Opening offer: Only $37

Does my partner need to do this with me for it to work?

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Do we learn all the personality types or just our own specific type?

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"Tehilla is 1 in a 1 000 000!!! She is incredibly passionate in her calling and God given gifts! She cares deeply for her clients and goes out of her way to be there to support you."

- Nicky

Nicky

Tehilla is 1 in a 1 000 000!!! She is incredibly passionate in her calling and God given gifts! She cares deeply for her clients and goes out of her way to be there to support you.

MB

"I would highly recommend your services and guidance to anyone who truly wants to heal and grow. Your ability to reveal the most vulnerable places to heal and provide awareness and self-healing tools is exceptional."

Kat C

"WWWOWOWWW. Mind blown! We could easily identify our ‘injury’ and we will keep this in mind going forward. How valuable to now understand why we act the way we do. THIS was AMAZING! Made me tear up! I will practice this!! Really enjoying this! Thanks!"